Anxiety & Stress


We first need to look at what keeps the anxiety disorder going on, and there are many reasons. Some effects are shown on your body (for example shallow breathing, muscle tension, poor nutrition), others on emotions (such as withheld feelings) this affects your behaviour (avoidance of the situation) and Mind (negative self talk), and of course low self-esteem has to be recovered to give you confidence again.

The causes of keeping the anxiety disorder going are very varied so a varied approach to recovery is needed too. Your therapist will work on

Mental, and the
hole self
Hypnotherapy can help you get rid of your anxiety and and/or phobias.

Medication – helps to relieve the anxiety, and is used for treatment with anxiety disorders. This is why it is important to see your doctor.

Relaxation training is also very important – when we become stressed and panic, we often hyperventilate, tense our muscles, and almost push ourselves into those panicky feelings. So the capacity to relax is essential, and what really makes the difference in dealing with anxiety is the regular daily practice of some form of deep relaxation – done properly this will help breathe normally again. Relaxation and hypnosis techniques will

Decrease the heart rate
Decrease the respiration rate
Decrease the blood pressure
Decrease the muscle tension
Decrease the analytical thinking

When deep relaxation is practiced for half an hour every day, it can produce over time, a continued feeling of well-being.

To bring yourself into a state of deep relaxation may include

Abdominal breathing
Progressive muscle relaxation
Guided imagery
Foreward positive thinking

Your Hypnotherapist will embrace all of this, by teaching you SELF -hypnosis, so that you can relax at home and let go of that anxiety – also teaching you to breathe properly, relax your muscles, work on your emotions and withheld feelings, turn your negative unhelpful self talk into positive, so that you will not want to avoid those tricky situations again.

Hypnotherapy for anxiety and panic attacks is an extremely powerful tool. It is used to change the thought processes that lead to the distress, and during hypnotherapy the anxiety levels can be decreased considerbly with the cooperation of the subconscious.

NLP and hypnosis can change a persons whole view of life, and give you a renewed confidence while restoring that essentia self esteem.

The generalised anxiety disorder is characterised by anxiety symptoms that are present for much of the time and not restricted to specific situations.

Generalised anxiety often accompanies phobias and is extremely common in people who are depressed. It can also be caused by physical illness, such as an overactive thyroid gland, or result from the emotional response to a serious illness such as a heart attack.

Some 15 per cent of people with GAD have a brother, sister or parent with a similar problem. This may reflect an inherited tendency to the disorder or the effects of the family environment. Two thirds of sufferers are women.


A phobia is a fear that is out of proportion to the situation that causes it and cannot be explained away. The person typically avoids the feared situation, since this helps to reduce the anxiety.

Some phobias represent heightened normal anxiety towards situations that people are evolutionarily ‘prepared’ to fear, eg snakes, heights and sharp objects.

In other instances, a phobia may arise by a non-threatening situation being associated with a traumatic experience. Having a car crash in Spain may lead to a phobia of Spain itself, holidays, driving or flying.

Phobias typically occur in specific situations, eg a fear of dentists. People experience ‘anticipatory anxiety’ when thinking of the situation and so attempt to avoid it. They are common in the general population, but are only severe enough to prove disabling in 2 per cent of people.

Simple phobias are phobias that are specific to objects or situations. Specific phobias include:

Animal phobias (eg dogs, snakes, spiders): the start of these phobias is often in childhood, usually before the age of seven years.

Blood and injury phobias: the fear of blood tests or the sight of blood that results in fainting.

Vertigo: a fear of heights.

Agoraphobia: an intense fear of leaving the home, being in crowded spaces, travelling on public transport and being in any place that is difficult to leave. Around 75 per cent of sufferers are women, and it occurs in just under 1 per cent of people. Agoraphobia may follow a life event and be associated with a fear of ‘what if it comes back while I am away from home’. It commonly occurs with panic attacks. The person may have a panic attack when outside the home and this reinforces the belief that it is safer to stay inside. Agoraphobia is often associated with depression.

Social phobia: a fear of social interaction with others, talking to people, eating, drinking and speaking in public. In contrast to agoraphobia, men and women are affected equally. Many people have a mixture of both agoraphobia and social phobia. Social phobia is also a common symptom of depression.

What should I do if I think I have an anxiety disorder?

Firstly, anxiety symptoms are common and they do not necessarily mean you have an anxiety disorder.Many of the symptoms of anxiety can be frightening. Just realising that they are not medically serious can help greatly.


If you still have concerns, seek help from your GP who can confirm that the symptoms are part of an anxiety disorder (or other mental health problem) rather than a physical illness. This may be straightforward, or it may require physical illnesses to be ruled out by means of various tests. All therapists will advise this. Above all, everybody needs to be able to relax. This is not always easy, and often people need to be taught how to relax. You will need to work hard at learning these skills, but they will be of benefit for the rest of your life.

We often think that stress is bad. This is not always the case. Everyone responds to stress differently. Stress only becomes a problem when it manifests itself through symptoms such as panic attacks, fears and phobias, or lack of confidence. It can also suppress the immune system and lead to illness.

Hypnosis can help to resolve stress by tracing the initial event that established the problem in the first place and replacing it with a more appropriate response. When we learn how to handle stress, it can boost our confidence, both personally and professionally. To feel balanced and at peace with oneself and others is perhaps how you would like to feel?

Many people feel varying degrees of anxiety, and all of them want an easier, more contented life, free of anxiety, and even more importantly, the ability to deal with any stressful situations that are very likely to happen in life, The use of hypnosis and Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) help people to change behaviours very quickly and deal with anxiety and stress. Usually, a four-session programme is enough to make powerful positive changes that can change your life for good.

A few relaxing and illuminating sessions (sometimes one is enough) can free you from locked-in emotion, and teach the skills that enable you to navigate through difficult times and so help many aspects of our lives, such as …

Building confidence and feeling good about ourselves

Being in control, thinking clearly

Letting go of the past

Relaxing in restful ways

We all want to move forwards with our lives because it’s a healthy attitude to take. However, locked-in emotion, dating back to times of difficulty and stress, can keep us looking backwards, a bit like driving you car and looking in the rear view mirror all the time.

Eastern disciplines, such as Traditional Chinese Medicine, have long emphasised the connection to physical and emotional health, such as anger, worry, fear, grief and obsessions, which do play important parts in the holistic self.

It’s common sense that pains of different kinds need treatments of different kinds too. You would not expect to have a broken bone treated in a non-physical way, nor would you take these kinds of emotional difficulties to the casualty department in your local hospital. When we are emotionally healthy, we bob back up like a cork in life’s waters, with calmness and confidence, but when we aren’t in that happy state what can we do?

Shall I offer you a map for this unknown river?  Or would you rather have a friendly pilot to help you navigate these difficult waters? This is what a therapist is trained to be, a pilot in difficult times, with skills and experience to deal with special situations. Life has taught me now I am in my 60’s that relationships are best met with skills that are built up and acquired over time and with special training the skills come into their own.

Often I am reminded by clients that ‘it’s easy when you know how’, [this is why I am so emphatic in teaching self help,] they say things to me like; “If only I had come to you sooner!” and “Why doesn’t our doctor show us these things?”



Mechanical stress:

  1. The average amount of force exerted per unit area. It is the internal resistance a material offers to being deformed and is measured in terms of the applied load..
  2. Compressive stress, the stress applied to materials resulting in their compaction. It is the ability of a material to resist being crushed.
  3. Tensile stress (also referred to as tension) is the stress state leading to expansion.
  4. Yield stress, the stress at which a material begins to deform plastically.

Biological stress:

  1. Stress (biology) physiological or psychological stress; some types include:
  2. Chronic stress, persistent stress which can lead to illness and mental disorder
  3. Workplace stress, stress caused by employment.

Quote: “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” ~ Aristotle

Throughout my years of experience I have found that no matter what healing is needed, physical or emotional, below the surface if stress is a factor it will inhibit the whole process.

Holistic healing is on all the levels, no matter what your beliefs regarding eastern or western medicine may be, the fact remains that when we are calm and relaxed the body and mind will use all our energies to repair any damage no matter where. Having stress in our lives interferes with the happy healing process like snow in the TV set.

In ancient times Roman soldiers were not expected to march all day without food and rest, even their slaves were allowed the basic needs – if only as a valuable investment! Well trained healers look at all aspects of a person’s life, work, rest and play are viewed holistically.

So, look at this test below and consider if your unconscious mind is trying to tell you something, perhaps there are signs you have ignored in the past, the hint will come to you in one way or another from your inner self, the physical, the emotional or indeed the spiritual.

1.Do you try to do everything yourself and feel overwhelmed when you are unable to?

2.Are you exhausted?

3.Do you avoid exercise?

4.Are you often irritated at yourself and with others?

5.Do your friends, work colleagues, and family tell you that you make mountains out of molehills?

6.Do you tend to bottle up your emotions, keep a tight lid on them, and keep everything inside?

7.Do you have difficulty getting off to sleep or staying asleep at night?

8.Do you have difficulty handling all the jobs or tasks you need to do each day?

9.Do you feel like your way is the only way to accomplish things?

10.Do you spend a lot of time complaining about yourself, other people,

or events that have happened to you in your life in the past?

11.Do you set unrealistic goals for yourself and others?

12.Do you frequently procrastinate over big decisions?

13.Do you eat unhealthily?

14.Do you loose control of your emotions or ‘lose it’ often?

15.Do you often find it hard to see humour in situations that others find funny?

16.Do you often feel depressed?

17.Do you avoid connecting with friends and family or colleagues?

18.Do you get frequently angry if people keep you waiting, or when you are kept waiting by something?

19.Are you depressed or anxious?

Only YOU can decide to alter anything for yourself, it’s no good expecting any improvement without some action, however small to begin with.

So try this, tonight before you go to sleep say a short prayer. Here’s an example, “To whom it may concern, please help me.” I call this the agnostics prayer.

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