Fears, Phobias, Self Help

A fear is not a phobia in itself, but a phobia is a fear taken to the extream. So if you are needing to know if you or a friend have a phobia  then simply put it is, or seems to be, irrational.

Hepaphobia. Fear of being touched. Agoraphobia. Fear of open spaces. There are so many kinds of phobias not least fear of flying / heights / bridges, very difficult before the channel tunnel was built!

From ‘Wikipedia’: the free encyclopaedia “A phobia” (from the Greek: φόβος, phóbos, “fear”). ‘Morbid fear’ is an irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, or people. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive, unreasonable desire to avoid the feared subject. When the fear is beyond one’s control, or if the fear is interfering with daily life, then a diagnosis under one of the anxiety disorders can be made.”

Phobias …

in the clinical meaning of the term, are the most common form of anxiety disorders. An American study by the National Institute of Mental Health found that between 8.7% and 18.1% of Americans suffer from phobias. Broken down by age and gender, the study found that phobias were the most common mental illness among women in all age groups and the second most common illness among men older than 25.


It is generally accepted that phobias arise from a combination of external events and internal predispositions. In a famous experiment, Martin Seligman used classical conditioning to establish phobias of snakes and flowers. The results of the experiment showed that it took far fewer shocks to create an adverse response to a picture of a snake than to a picture of a flower, leading to the conclusion that certain objects may have a genetic predisposition to being associated with fearMany specific phobias can be traced back to a specific triggering event, usually a traumatic experience at an early age.

Social phobias and agoraphobia have more complex causes that are not entirely known at this time. It is believed that heredity, genetics, and brain chemistry combine with life-experiences to play a major role in the development of anxiety disorders, phobias and panic attacks.

At certain times of the year, most especially on dull days, we might be thinking about holidays.

Does the fear of flying or travelling put you off booking holidays? Do you want to be slimmer so that you can look your best on the beach?

Hypnotherapy and NLP can help you to overcome your fears and anxieties.

You may be looking at this website because you want to make some changes. Ask yourself if there is anything stopping you from going forward, and leaving behind those old fears and anxieties?

Thought Field Therapy [TFT] is combining the emotional and the material aspects of healing, and ‘tapping’ as it has become know, is a natural part of my holistic healing service.

Call now and see what a little help can do – and enjoy all that holiday, including the journey this time!


We all have different amounts of confidence within us. Past events, and negative experiences can stop us from being as confident as we would like to be. It may feel like someone or something is chipping away at our self-esteem, and that when we think about things we would like or have to do, we feel nervous and anxious, and then we feel sabotaged by our own feelings.

Without confidence we feel as though our choices are being limited. We stop doing the things we would like to do because we may fear we are not good enough or have low self-worth.

Public presentations, interviews or appraisals often fill us with fear and anxiety, far beyond the level we are able to deal with. Rapid heart rate, sweating and dry mouth are all symptoms of anxiety. Dizziness and the feeling of wanting to run away are common feelings when under pressure.

Hypnosis, and working with the unconscious mind will help you to get rid of limiting beliefs you may have about your own abilities.

Could you benefit from finding out how to be as confident as you would like to be? After one session you can begin to notice all the differences that make the difference.

Taken from Nelson Mandela’s inaugural speech:

“…Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves:
’Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people around you won’t feel insecure. We are all meant to shine as children do. We are born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically releases others

Everyone has a philosophy, if it’s only “Live and let live.” Our Deepest Mind is an untold source of everything we will ever need to survive, every lesson from the beginning of our lives is recorded there. Some of it, the scientists are coming to believe, is not just recorded in the genetic pattern, but in the spiritual template of existence. Regression is a very interesting subject.

All scientists agree that existence is a combination of positive and negative, of light and dark, we cannot have energy without this polarity, the yin and yang of the ancients. Our own freewill comes in the choice of how we balance these energetic factors, how we make light or dark a predominance in our lives, its up to us.

Self help is important to empower the inner being, it continues the process of regeneration, revitalisation, and realisation that allows the unfolding of gentle awareness into sure certainty that we are indeed all entitled to betterment. This comes with a built-in package, the desire to do something, to get on with it, to move foreword, to progress, yes, to help ourselves!

In living in the constrictions of a small life we limit our opportunities, we inhibit the opening of our minds to receive that which we are entitled to, as Nelson Mandela says, as children of God. It is for us all to reach out and grasp, it is for us all to be open in this way, to think outwards.

As we allow our true selves to grow in the light, like the universe we expand out exponentially, all the energies of existence are used in this way, the same rules of physics that govern this material planet still rule the worlds that are as yet unknown, the inner and outer worlds of actuality and possibility.

We know that all physical things must have a plan, a blueprint, and this plan starts with thought, an idea of what might be. Any car in the street started with a person at some time in the past visualising what might be possible, and actualising it.

Thought is an energy that is so powerful it is forbidden in some countries, it is punishable by death. Free speech and human rights have long been fighting in the dark to emerge triumphant into the light, since the first tyrant discovered the controlling strength of thought. Just think of it, the philosophers and teachers are the first to be destroyed.

Do we all allow ourselves to take all our thought power for granted? Do we become complacent, lazy? Not so much ‘hiding our light under the bushel’ but perhaps letting the oil run low. We can train ourselves through positive thought patterns and beneficial habits to be the people we truly are when at our best, yes, even the people we are entitled to be. Perhaps it is our weariness that allows us to forget this heritage as children of the spirit.

Self Hypnosis therapy is an educational approach based on scientific principles, which help to understand the workings of the various ‘built in’ survival systems we all have, and our own basic philosophy. It enables a person to generate solutions to problems based on techniques which are more effective than simply conscious coping strategies, (which can involve months and even years, of other processes ‘digging out’ the past and desensitising the mind and emotional sensitivities along a hard and troubled road)

Hypnosis significantly affects the activity in a part of the brain responsible for detecting and responding to errors, says John Gruzelier, a psychologist at Imperial College in London. Using functional brain imaging, he also found that hypnosis affects an area that controls higher-level executive functions, it measurably changes how the brain works.

“This explains why, under hypnosis, people can do outrageous things that ordinarily they wouldn’t dream of doing,” says Gruzelier, who presented his study at the British Association for the Advancement of Science Festival in Exeter, UK.

You might have picked up a sensationalised picture of hypnosis from the media or stage shows. But does that mean that anyone can be made to do anything? Of course not! Self-preservation governs everybody, and in a state of relaxation this is particularly true, and that’s why no one has ever been injured in a state of hypnosis or done anything they weren’t “up for”, they just let go their inhibitions. Please put that out of your mind, you should have a really enjoyable as well as powerful experience, during which you are always in control.

What can it help?The common assistance’s are to alter behaviour such as smoking or weight control, other help can be given with phobias, fear of heights – spiders – flying etc. Phobias and stress related emotional issues ‘tied’ to past events you see in the personal experience related below.

Both physical and emotional issues have a debilitating ‘knock-on’ effect and the rehabilitation / recovery from illness or operations is a particularly good example of how hypnotherapy can speed the healing process.


Years ago I had a fear of trains, not a big problem you might say, but family holidays were spoilt for me because of it. Although I knew what had caused this fear a long time ago, I still got stressed out when I had to take a train journey, and the symptoms were not nice, believe me!

So, what happened with the hypnotherapy? I needed, as it happens, just one session taking me back on a ‘time-line’ and then with the self-help lessons I was ‘sorted’, and now even years later I am taking my grandson for train rides here in Norfolk, no worries!

At every point the therapist will ask if you are willing to let go of old habits; everything needs your permission. S/he is just there to be an experienced guide for you, who knows the territory, and is there to take you only where you want to go, at the pace that is right for you, and by the most pleasant route possible!

One definition of hypnotherapy is ‘using a light trance state for positive change’. Each time we visualise in our own mind an event in order to recall it, we go into a light trance state so we can draw that memory out of our ’store-house’. Visualisation is the lightest form of trance, which might be used to take a person on a guided journey.

You might think that a deep trance is necessary but that is not the case. Any time that you are absorbed in or focusing on something you are effectively in a light trance. Even watching television or reading a book is a form of trance, as is looking at a computer screen as you are doing now; it is an altered state of awareness.

What does it feel like? You might well say, “I didn’t feel hypnotised” or “I heard every word”. Usually it feels as if you could get up straight away if you wanted to, but you just can’t be bothered. You’re not going to a hypnotherapist to be ‘hypnotised’; you are going to have your life improved / adjusted, the therapist’s job is to create positive change in you, not to knock you out!

I have used visualisation in teaching for many years, and a surprising success was as an instructor with groups of trainee healers. After the training session each student was amazed at the amount of healing that was brought about through this simple structure of visualisation and light trance to themselves! Each had a story to tell of the interesting journey they had been on that evening. I had not even tried to change them, but allowed them to change anything they wanted by themselves.

What do you need for this amazing healing?Only the ability to concentrate and take suggestions, that’s all, your knowledge that all is well comes through confidence in your therapist, and if you are not sure, try another therapist.

The cost of treatment is dependant on the monetary resources of the client. I have helped many people through the holistic healing approach, from the busy man working all day in his office, who has a hidden fear of public speaking, to the retired farmer who’s back pain has troubled him all his working life.

If unable to answer the phone I will ask you to leave a message speaking slowly and clearly, and give your contact number so I can return your call as soon as is possible.

LOCATION: Stella is located in Crowhurst, East Sussex between Battle and Hastings.

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It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change.

Charles Darwin


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