Having an Operation?

Would you like to go to the dentist / doctor / hospital without fear?

Would you like to breeze through the doors with a smile on your face?

Perhaps that second one is a bit optimistic, but … “no worries!” … is within your grasp!

Let me explain, some of the biggest deterrents to healing are the emotions of fear and worry.

Fear is an inhibiter, which actually prevents the normal actions of the body performing even the simplest of ordinary functions. [There are many examples of this in everyday life, symptoms of these maladies might be stomach ulcers- IBS – eczema – asthma – bedwetting, I could go on.]

There are two uses for hypnosis where an anticipated event / operation is to happen.


Fear in anticipation of an event can have its very useful function where caution is necessary, but in the pre-operative process it is actually a barrier. Instructions from the doctor no matter how clear they might be to the outsider, are not just not heard by the patient who is in a fearful state, this is why its good advice to take a companion with you when the results of any tests are expected.

The thought of a dentist, hospital, or even just blood, in some people can stimulate a very strong physical reaction, heart palpitations, vomiting, feinting, and fear is a close relative of panic., who needs to be told that?

Worry comes from the mind in sometimes unexpected ways, we can try to put away that ‘little op’ to the back of the thinking parts, but it will pop up at odd times when the brain is at rest, and we are caught unawares!

Many people think it’s brave to ignore a strong fear, and then find perhaps even a long time later that it again pops up to haunt us, post traumatic distress is better understood these days.


The regeneration of clean new tissues in the body is stimulated through the immune system, it is triggered by the body’s natural abilities, and these again can be inhibited through any emotion that restricts.

Fear, anger, panic, grief, and worry are all enemies of the natural cycle of life; we cannot function normally in any of those states.

How do we avoid them?

“Put your mind at rest” says the specialist, that’s easier said than done; yet there are ways through the inner ‘doors’ of the unconscious to do this. It is part of our inbuilt human being mental-physical system that self preservation will win most of the time, and this is made use of by contacting that part of us that actually wants to help, not hinder us!

By visiting the hypnotherapists clinic some time in advance (as much time as possible here) self-hypnosis can be taught and actual visualisation / hypnosis utilised, all thats needed is a little practice.

Individual tapes / discs can be made to play as many times as needed at home, where surroundings are most conducive. Then also recordings can be made to speed healing after the event, when visits to the practitioner are perhaps not practical.

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Anxiety & Stress


We first need to look at what keeps the anxiety disorder going on, and there are many reasons. Some effects are shown on your body (for example shallow breathing, muscle tension, poor nutrition), others on emotions (such as withheld feelings) this affects your behaviour (avoidance of the situation) and Mind (negative self talk), and of course low self-esteem has to be recovered to give you confidence again.

The causes of keeping the anxiety disorder going are very varied so a varied approach to recovery is needed too. Your therapist will work on

Mental, and the
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Hypnotherapy can help you get rid of your anxiety and and/or phobias.

Medication – helps to relieve the anxiety, and is used for treatment with anxiety disorders. This is why it is important to see your doctor.

Relaxation training is also very important – when we become stressed and panic, we often hyperventilate, tense our muscles, and almost push ourselves into those panicky feelings. So the capacity to relax is essential, and what really makes the difference in dealing with anxiety is the regular daily practice of some form of deep relaxation – done properly this will help breathe normally again. Relaxation and hypnosis techniques will

Decrease the heart rate
Decrease the respiration rate
Decrease the blood pressure
Decrease the muscle tension
Decrease the analytical thinking

When deep relaxation is practiced for half an hour every day, it can produce over time, a continued feeling of well-being.

To bring yourself into a state of deep relaxation may include

Abdominal breathing
Progressive muscle relaxation
Guided imagery
Foreward positive thinking

Your Hypnotherapist will embrace all of this, by teaching you SELF -hypnosis, so that you can relax at home and let go of that anxiety – also teaching you to breathe properly, relax your muscles, work on your emotions and withheld feelings, turn your negative unhelpful self talk into positive, so that you will not want to avoid those tricky situations again.

Hypnotherapy for anxiety and panic attacks is an extremely powerful tool. It is used to change the thought processes that lead to the distress, and during hypnotherapy the anxiety levels can be decreased considerbly with the cooperation of the subconscious.

NLP and hypnosis can change a persons whole view of life, and give you a renewed confidence while restoring that essentia self esteem.

The generalised anxiety disorder is characterised by anxiety symptoms that are present for much of the time and not restricted to specific situations.

Generalised anxiety often accompanies phobias and is extremely common in people who are depressed. It can also be caused by physical illness, such as an overactive thyroid gland, or result from the emotional response to a serious illness such as a heart attack.

Some 15 per cent of people with GAD have a brother, sister or parent with a similar problem. This may reflect an inherited tendency to the disorder or the effects of the family environment. Two thirds of sufferers are women.


A phobia is a fear that is out of proportion to the situation that causes it and cannot be explained away. The person typically avoids the feared situation, since this helps to reduce the anxiety.

Some phobias represent heightened normal anxiety towards situations that people are evolutionarily ‘prepared’ to fear, eg snakes, heights and sharp objects.

In other instances, a phobia may arise by a non-threatening situation being associated with a traumatic experience. Having a car crash in Spain may lead to a phobia of Spain itself, holidays, driving or flying.

Phobias typically occur in specific situations, eg a fear of dentists. People experience ‘anticipatory anxiety’ when thinking of the situation and so attempt to avoid it. They are common in the general population, but are only severe enough to prove disabling in 2 per cent of people.

Simple phobias are phobias that are specific to objects or situations. Specific phobias include:

Animal phobias (eg dogs, snakes, spiders): the start of these phobias is often in childhood, usually before the age of seven years.

Blood and injury phobias: the fear of blood tests or the sight of blood that results in fainting.

Vertigo: a fear of heights.

Agoraphobia: an intense fear of leaving the home, being in crowded spaces, travelling on public transport and being in any place that is difficult to leave. Around 75 per cent of sufferers are women, and it occurs in just under 1 per cent of people. Agoraphobia may follow a life event and be associated with a fear of ‘what if it comes back while I am away from home’. It commonly occurs with panic attacks. The person may have a panic attack when outside the home and this reinforces the belief that it is safer to stay inside. Agoraphobia is often associated with depression.

Social phobia: a fear of social interaction with others, talking to people, eating, drinking and speaking in public. In contrast to agoraphobia, men and women are affected equally. Many people have a mixture of both agoraphobia and social phobia. Social phobia is also a common symptom of depression.

What should I do if I think I have an anxiety disorder?

Firstly, anxiety symptoms are common and they do not necessarily mean you have an anxiety disorder.Many of the symptoms of anxiety can be frightening. Just realising that they are not medically serious can help greatly.


If you still have concerns, seek help from your GP who can confirm that the symptoms are part of an anxiety disorder (or other mental health problem) rather than a physical illness. This may be straightforward, or it may require physical illnesses to be ruled out by means of various tests. All therapists will advise this. Above all, everybody needs to be able to relax. This is not always easy, and often people need to be taught how to relax. You will need to work hard at learning these skills, but they will be of benefit for the rest of your life.

We often think that stress is bad. This is not always the case. Everyone responds to stress differently. Stress only becomes a problem when it manifests itself through symptoms such as panic attacks, fears and phobias, or lack of confidence. It can also suppress the immune system and lead to illness.

Hypnosis can help to resolve stress by tracing the initial event that established the problem in the first place and replacing it with a more appropriate response. When we learn how to handle stress, it can boost our confidence, both personally and professionally. To feel balanced and at peace with oneself and others is perhaps how you would like to feel?

Many people feel varying degrees of anxiety, and all of them want an easier, more contented life, free of anxiety, and even more importantly, the ability to deal with any stressful situations that are very likely to happen in life, The use of hypnosis and Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) help people to change behaviours very quickly and deal with anxiety and stress. Usually, a four-session programme is enough to make powerful positive changes that can change your life for good.

A few relaxing and illuminating sessions (sometimes one is enough) can free you from locked-in emotion, and teach the skills that enable you to navigate through difficult times and so help many aspects of our lives, such as …

Building confidence and feeling good about ourselves

Being in control, thinking clearly

Letting go of the past

Relaxing in restful ways

We all want to move forwards with our lives because it’s a healthy attitude to take. However, locked-in emotion, dating back to times of difficulty and stress, can keep us looking backwards, a bit like driving you car and looking in the rear view mirror all the time.

Eastern disciplines, such as Traditional Chinese Medicine, have long emphasised the connection to physical and emotional health, such as anger, worry, fear, grief and obsessions, which do play important parts in the holistic self.

It’s common sense that pains of different kinds need treatments of different kinds too. You would not expect to have a broken bone treated in a non-physical way, nor would you take these kinds of emotional difficulties to the casualty department in your local hospital. When we are emotionally healthy, we bob back up like a cork in life’s waters, with calmness and confidence, but when we aren’t in that happy state what can we do?

Shall I offer you a map for this unknown river?  Or would you rather have a friendly pilot to help you navigate these difficult waters? This is what a therapist is trained to be, a pilot in difficult times, with skills and experience to deal with special situations. Life has taught me now I am in my 60’s that relationships are best met with skills that are built up and acquired over time and with special training the skills come into their own.

Often I am reminded by clients that ‘it’s easy when you know how’, [this is why I am so emphatic in teaching self help,] they say things to me like; “If only I had come to you sooner!” and “Why doesn’t our doctor show us these things?”



Mechanical stress:

  1. The average amount of force exerted per unit area. It is the internal resistance a material offers to being deformed and is measured in terms of the applied load..
  2. Compressive stress, the stress applied to materials resulting in their compaction. It is the ability of a material to resist being crushed.
  3. Tensile stress (also referred to as tension) is the stress state leading to expansion.
  4. Yield stress, the stress at which a material begins to deform plastically.

Biological stress:

  1. Stress (biology) physiological or psychological stress; some types include:
  2. Chronic stress, persistent stress which can lead to illness and mental disorder
  3. Workplace stress, stress caused by employment.

Quote: “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” ~ Aristotle

Throughout my years of experience I have found that no matter what healing is needed, physical or emotional, below the surface if stress is a factor it will inhibit the whole process.

Holistic healing is on all the levels, no matter what your beliefs regarding eastern or western medicine may be, the fact remains that when we are calm and relaxed the body and mind will use all our energies to repair any damage no matter where. Having stress in our lives interferes with the happy healing process like snow in the TV set.

In ancient times Roman soldiers were not expected to march all day without food and rest, even their slaves were allowed the basic needs – if only as a valuable investment! Well trained healers look at all aspects of a person’s life, work, rest and play are viewed holistically.

So, look at this test below and consider if your unconscious mind is trying to tell you something, perhaps there are signs you have ignored in the past, the hint will come to you in one way or another from your inner self, the physical, the emotional or indeed the spiritual.

1.Do you try to do everything yourself and feel overwhelmed when you are unable to?

2.Are you exhausted?

3.Do you avoid exercise?

4.Are you often irritated at yourself and with others?

5.Do your friends, work colleagues, and family tell you that you make mountains out of molehills?

6.Do you tend to bottle up your emotions, keep a tight lid on them, and keep everything inside?

7.Do you have difficulty getting off to sleep or staying asleep at night?

8.Do you have difficulty handling all the jobs or tasks you need to do each day?

9.Do you feel like your way is the only way to accomplish things?

10.Do you spend a lot of time complaining about yourself, other people,

or events that have happened to you in your life in the past?

11.Do you set unrealistic goals for yourself and others?

12.Do you frequently procrastinate over big decisions?

13.Do you eat unhealthily?

14.Do you loose control of your emotions or ‘lose it’ often?

15.Do you often find it hard to see humour in situations that others find funny?

16.Do you often feel depressed?

17.Do you avoid connecting with friends and family or colleagues?

18.Do you get frequently angry if people keep you waiting, or when you are kept waiting by something?

19.Are you depressed or anxious?

Only YOU can decide to alter anything for yourself, it’s no good expecting any improvement without some action, however small to begin with.

So try this, tonight before you go to sleep say a short prayer. Here’s an example, “To whom it may concern, please help me.” I call this the agnostics prayer.

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Fears, Phobias, Self Help

A fear is not a phobia in itself, but a phobia is a fear taken to the extream. So if you are needing to know if you or a friend have a phobia  then simply put it is, or seems to be, irrational.

Hepaphobia. Fear of being touched. Agoraphobia. Fear of open spaces. There are so many kinds of phobias not least fear of flying / heights / bridges, very difficult before the channel tunnel was built!

From ‘Wikipedia’: the free encyclopaedia “A phobia” (from the Greek: φόβος, phóbos, “fear”). ‘Morbid fear’ is an irrational, intense, persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, or people. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive, unreasonable desire to avoid the feared subject. When the fear is beyond one’s control, or if the fear is interfering with daily life, then a diagnosis under one of the anxiety disorders can be made.”

Phobias …

in the clinical meaning of the term, are the most common form of anxiety disorders. An American study by the National Institute of Mental Health found that between 8.7% and 18.1% of Americans suffer from phobias. Broken down by age and gender, the study found that phobias were the most common mental illness among women in all age groups and the second most common illness among men older than 25.


It is generally accepted that phobias arise from a combination of external events and internal predispositions. In a famous experiment, Martin Seligman used classical conditioning to establish phobias of snakes and flowers. The results of the experiment showed that it took far fewer shocks to create an adverse response to a picture of a snake than to a picture of a flower, leading to the conclusion that certain objects may have a genetic predisposition to being associated with fearMany specific phobias can be traced back to a specific triggering event, usually a traumatic experience at an early age.

Social phobias and agoraphobia have more complex causes that are not entirely known at this time. It is believed that heredity, genetics, and brain chemistry combine with life-experiences to play a major role in the development of anxiety disorders, phobias and panic attacks.

At certain times of the year, most especially on dull days, we might be thinking about holidays.

Does the fear of flying or travelling put you off booking holidays? Do you want to be slimmer so that you can look your best on the beach?

Hypnotherapy and NLP can help you to overcome your fears and anxieties.

You may be looking at this website because you want to make some changes. Ask yourself if there is anything stopping you from going forward, and leaving behind those old fears and anxieties?

Thought Field Therapy [TFT] is combining the emotional and the material aspects of healing, and ‘tapping’ as it has become know, is a natural part of my holistic healing service.

Call now and see what a little help can do – and enjoy all that holiday, including the journey this time!


We all have different amounts of confidence within us. Past events, and negative experiences can stop us from being as confident as we would like to be. It may feel like someone or something is chipping away at our self-esteem, and that when we think about things we would like or have to do, we feel nervous and anxious, and then we feel sabotaged by our own feelings.

Without confidence we feel as though our choices are being limited. We stop doing the things we would like to do because we may fear we are not good enough or have low self-worth.

Public presentations, interviews or appraisals often fill us with fear and anxiety, far beyond the level we are able to deal with. Rapid heart rate, sweating and dry mouth are all symptoms of anxiety. Dizziness and the feeling of wanting to run away are common feelings when under pressure.

Hypnosis, and working with the unconscious mind will help you to get rid of limiting beliefs you may have about your own abilities.

Could you benefit from finding out how to be as confident as you would like to be? After one session you can begin to notice all the differences that make the difference.

Taken from Nelson Mandela’s inaugural speech:

“…Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves:
’Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people around you won’t feel insecure. We are all meant to shine as children do. We are born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically releases others

Everyone has a philosophy, if it’s only “Live and let live.” Our Deepest Mind is an untold source of everything we will ever need to survive, every lesson from the beginning of our lives is recorded there. Some of it, the scientists are coming to believe, is not just recorded in the genetic pattern, but in the spiritual template of existence. Regression is a very interesting subject.

All scientists agree that existence is a combination of positive and negative, of light and dark, we cannot have energy without this polarity, the yin and yang of the ancients. Our own freewill comes in the choice of how we balance these energetic factors, how we make light or dark a predominance in our lives, its up to us.

Self help is important to empower the inner being, it continues the process of regeneration, revitalisation, and realisation that allows the unfolding of gentle awareness into sure certainty that we are indeed all entitled to betterment. This comes with a built-in package, the desire to do something, to get on with it, to move foreword, to progress, yes, to help ourselves!

In living in the constrictions of a small life we limit our opportunities, we inhibit the opening of our minds to receive that which we are entitled to, as Nelson Mandela says, as children of God. It is for us all to reach out and grasp, it is for us all to be open in this way, to think outwards.

As we allow our true selves to grow in the light, like the universe we expand out exponentially, all the energies of existence are used in this way, the same rules of physics that govern this material planet still rule the worlds that are as yet unknown, the inner and outer worlds of actuality and possibility.

We know that all physical things must have a plan, a blueprint, and this plan starts with thought, an idea of what might be. Any car in the street started with a person at some time in the past visualising what might be possible, and actualising it.

Thought is an energy that is so powerful it is forbidden in some countries, it is punishable by death. Free speech and human rights have long been fighting in the dark to emerge triumphant into the light, since the first tyrant discovered the controlling strength of thought. Just think of it, the philosophers and teachers are the first to be destroyed.

Do we all allow ourselves to take all our thought power for granted? Do we become complacent, lazy? Not so much ‘hiding our light under the bushel’ but perhaps letting the oil run low. We can train ourselves through positive thought patterns and beneficial habits to be the people we truly are when at our best, yes, even the people we are entitled to be. Perhaps it is our weariness that allows us to forget this heritage as children of the spirit.

Self Hypnosis therapy is an educational approach based on scientific principles, which help to understand the workings of the various ‘built in’ survival systems we all have, and our own basic philosophy. It enables a person to generate solutions to problems based on techniques which are more effective than simply conscious coping strategies, (which can involve months and even years, of other processes ‘digging out’ the past and desensitising the mind and emotional sensitivities along a hard and troubled road)

Hypnosis significantly affects the activity in a part of the brain responsible for detecting and responding to errors, says John Gruzelier, a psychologist at Imperial College in London. Using functional brain imaging, he also found that hypnosis affects an area that controls higher-level executive functions, it measurably changes how the brain works.

“This explains why, under hypnosis, people can do outrageous things that ordinarily they wouldn’t dream of doing,” says Gruzelier, who presented his study at the British Association for the Advancement of Science Festival in Exeter, UK.

You might have picked up a sensationalised picture of hypnosis from the media or stage shows. But does that mean that anyone can be made to do anything? Of course not! Self-preservation governs everybody, and in a state of relaxation this is particularly true, and that’s why no one has ever been injured in a state of hypnosis or done anything they weren’t “up for”, they just let go their inhibitions. Please put that out of your mind, you should have a really enjoyable as well as powerful experience, during which you are always in control.

What can it help?The common assistance’s are to alter behaviour such as smoking or weight control, other help can be given with phobias, fear of heights – spiders – flying etc. Phobias and stress related emotional issues ‘tied’ to past events you see in the personal experience related below.

Both physical and emotional issues have a debilitating ‘knock-on’ effect and the rehabilitation / recovery from illness or operations is a particularly good example of how hypnotherapy can speed the healing process.


Years ago I had a fear of trains, not a big problem you might say, but family holidays were spoilt for me because of it. Although I knew what had caused this fear a long time ago, I still got stressed out when I had to take a train journey, and the symptoms were not nice, believe me!

So, what happened with the hypnotherapy? I needed, as it happens, just one session taking me back on a ‘time-line’ and then with the self-help lessons I was ‘sorted’, and now even years later I am taking my grandson for train rides here in Norfolk, no worries!

At every point the therapist will ask if you are willing to let go of old habits; everything needs your permission. S/he is just there to be an experienced guide for you, who knows the territory, and is there to take you only where you want to go, at the pace that is right for you, and by the most pleasant route possible!

One definition of hypnotherapy is ‘using a light trance state for positive change’. Each time we visualise in our own mind an event in order to recall it, we go into a light trance state so we can draw that memory out of our ’store-house’. Visualisation is the lightest form of trance, which might be used to take a person on a guided journey.

You might think that a deep trance is necessary but that is not the case. Any time that you are absorbed in or focusing on something you are effectively in a light trance. Even watching television or reading a book is a form of trance, as is looking at a computer screen as you are doing now; it is an altered state of awareness.

What does it feel like? You might well say, “I didn’t feel hypnotised” or “I heard every word”. Usually it feels as if you could get up straight away if you wanted to, but you just can’t be bothered. You’re not going to a hypnotherapist to be ‘hypnotised’; you are going to have your life improved / adjusted, the therapist’s job is to create positive change in you, not to knock you out!

I have used visualisation in teaching for many years, and a surprising success was as an instructor with groups of trainee healers. After the training session each student was amazed at the amount of healing that was brought about through this simple structure of visualisation and light trance to themselves! Each had a story to tell of the interesting journey they had been on that evening. I had not even tried to change them, but allowed them to change anything they wanted by themselves.

What do you need for this amazing healing?Only the ability to concentrate and take suggestions, that’s all, your knowledge that all is well comes through confidence in your therapist, and if you are not sure, try another therapist.

The cost of treatment is dependant on the monetary resources of the client. I have helped many people through the holistic healing approach, from the busy man working all day in his office, who has a hidden fear of public speaking, to the retired farmer who’s back pain has troubled him all his working life.

If unable to answer the phone I will ask you to leave a message speaking slowly and clearly, and give your contact number so I can return your call as soon as is possible.

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It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change.

Charles Darwin